We spend our lives learning to fit into systems and meet expectations, but somewhere along the way, we forget the one job only we can do: being ourselves.

This reflection explores the inner voice that holds us back, the systems that resist change and how genuine coaching and courage help us reclaim our purpose.

In sharing my journey with others, I’ve noticed that many think “leadership coaching” is only for traditional leaders or those in formal roles of authority. But leadership isn’t a title—it’s a mindset, a confidence to bring your true self forward, and to act with purpose, vision, and courage.

“I will,” “Next time,” “I’m just…” Sound familiar? These phrases seem innocent but often become barriers between us and the futures we envision. Our internal wiring is powerful and while humans are wonderfully complex, we’re surprisingly good at fooling ourselves out of progress.